I am desperate to take time off when my son is born – I took not one day off when my daughter was born three years ago, because I am self-employed, and it has hurt ever since. We are successfully supporting a family of four as freelance artists, and we shouldn’t be punished for that huge accomplishment or the great example to our kids. My wife is entitled to her career, and my kids are entitled to spend time with both of their mothers, not just one.